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Salary.com Reports How Much A Stay-At-Home Mom would earn - $131,471. "NEEDHAM, MASSACHUSETTS - May 6, 2005 -- A survey released on May 2, 2005 by compensation expert firm Salary.com has triggered a wave of discussion throughout the United States and even as far away as Australia. In the survey, Salary.com concluded that stay-at-home moms perform a variety of jobs that, if totaled, would pay $131,471. The analysis triggered widespread media coverage, discussions and emails. The survey was the #1 emailed story on Yahoo! on Monday, May 2." (Salary.com) [Read Article] Related Article "Dream Job, Stay-At-Home Mom" [ReadArticle]
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Stay At Home Mom & CEO Author: Michele Schermerhorn Gone are the days when a woman had to choose a career or her family. The Internet has changed everything! Now any woman can run her own successful online business while staying home with her children. [Read Article]
For the Love of Mommy by: Jennifer Ottolino For most of you being a mother is one of the most wonderful and rewarding experiences that you will have in your life. It can also be a time when you feel lost and out of touch with who you are outside of being a “mommy”. Maintaining an identity outside. of your children is vitally important, not just for you, but for your family as well. So here are ten strategies that not only keep you connected with you, but also have the added bonus of being an important life skill to teach your children. [Full Article]
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Okay ladies, we need to find a better name for what we do! We don't just stay at home, and what does a housewife really mean? we love and support our children, we love and support our significant other, we manage the family finances, we clean, organize, and decorate our home, we shop for groceries and clothes, and we play taxi service all week long because we want our kids to have the best childhood ever. Oh wait, but on top of these duties, we still need time to spend for ourselves; reminding ourselves that we are individuals with individual needs and desires. So when someone asks you what do you do for work, what do you tell them? Think of a good title for our position, write it down on the form below and send it with pride. We'll post the reponses on this page and we'll take a vote to see which one we like the best!
Here's the latest entries in our Change Our Name Game:
Support Services Family Division - Nancy Family Manager - Heidi Potts, Domesticated Goddess - Dee White D.E.A.D. (Domestic Engineering And Directing) - Ashley Solomon I home school kids - Allison Smithson Chief Family Engineer - Tina
Family Entity Care Representative - from Lovethebunny (Didn't get her Name!)
Home Front Manager - Becky
Alpha Mom - Amanda
Thanks for your input, we'll keep on thinking and then we'll take a vote!
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It's wonderful being able to stay at home with your children, whether you have a job or business, or not. But you need your spouse to be supportive, as well as friends and family, or your life becomes much more difficult. You may feel as though you are stuck in your house, or spend all your time taking care of others with no time for you. Fortunately, there are plenty of things you can do about this. If you're facing an unsupportive spouse, whether they're not helping with the kids or telling you to find an outside the home job, you need to sit down and talk with them about what you're doing and how important it is to you. Even if your only job is caring for your family, you need a break sometimes too. And if you have a home business, it can be even harder to run it if you're always being told to get a job. So talk about it. Don't be confrontational, just explain your position. Remember, you do far more than just sit in front of the TV all day. But what if your spouse simply can't help you, because they're working long hours and are quite simply not there at the times you need them? You can still get out of the house to do your own thing if you want. For time without your children when your spouse is too busy, try checking with your church. Some have Mother's Day Out programs, which allow moms to get out and do something while someone else watches the kids. You need to make time for yourself regularly, and this is one way to get it even when your spouse's life is busy. Friends and other family members may assume that just because you're home all day, you're available to run their errands, visit whenever they feel like it, and so forth. Be firm about leaving yourself enough time to do the things you need to take care of every day. Many parents find that staying home with their families isn't exactly the life of leisure others may assume it is. If you work at home, be firm about your office hours. Taking care of your family involves taking care of yourself. Make sure you're getting the support you need from the people who love you. Tell them your needs, whether it be helping to pick up around the house, putting the kids to bed sometimes, or giving you a few hours to be by yourself. When you spend your entire day at home, it's really not so much to ask, is it? Keywords: stay at home, work at home, parent, mom, relax About the Author |
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For the Love of Mommy
by: Jennifer Ottolino
For most of you being a mother is one of the most wonderful and rewarding experiences that you will have in your life. It can also be a time when you feel lost and out of touch with who you are outside of being a “mommy”. Maintaining an identity outside of your children is vitally important, not just for you, but for your family as well. So here are ten strategies that not only keep you connected with you, but also have the added bonus of being an important life skill to teach your children.
1. Be present- Often when we spend time with our children we are thinking about the things that we should be doing or we multi task and we are not really present with them. Then, when we are not with them, we feel guilty. Make the decision that when you spend time with your child to just be there for them, enjoy them, listen to them, and focus on them 100%. Spending this type of quality time with your child will lessen the guilt and help you focus on other activities with the same 100% attention. Added Bonus: Teaches your child to focus on and enjoy the moment.
2. Take care of yourself- This is a big one for most women since we get so busy caring for others we tend to forget about ourselves. Define what taking care of yourself means to you and develop a schedule to do it. Keep tweaking your schedule until you are actually fitting taking care of yourself into the day. Taking care of yourself helps to replenish your spirit, it helps you to relax, and it helps you to feel good about yourself. Added Bonus: Teaches your child to develop healthy habits that will last a lifetime.
3. Connect with you partner- It is so easy to get wrapped up in the kids and in everyday life that you forget about your relationship with your partner. Connect with your partner as often as you can, make a point to sit down over coffee on a Sunday morning and just talk about anything and everything, but the kids. It can be silly or profound, just make sure you connect with each other as a couple. Added Bonus: Teaches your child how to maintain a healthy relationship.
4. Get involved- Get involved in some activity that is only for you. It can be work, volunteering, a class, or a book club. Just get involved in some regular activity where you are not a wife or a mommy, you are just you. Added Bonus: Encourages your child to participate in outside activities.
5. Have meaningful conversations- Sometimes when you have children your day gets so caught up with “kid stuff” that you can’t remember the last time you had a meaningful adult conversation. Have you ever felt frustrated, aggravated and on edge and then gone out to a long dinner with a friend and felt like a new woman at the end of the night? That is why it is important to have meaningful conversations. Added Bonus: Teaches your child to get their needs met by more than one person.
6. Read- Who has time to read? We all do. It doesn’t have to be a long time, and reading is a great way to be intellectually stimulated. It exposes us to different subjects and new ideas, even when it is a light and fluffy read. Staying intellectually stimulated is important because it keeps us in touch with what we find exciting and gets those brain cells snapping. . Added Bonus: Teaches your child to seek out and appreciate knowledge.
7. Take time for just you- Make sure you get some get some quality time for just you. It can be anything you want from spending time with a friend, to getting a manicure, or just being by yourself. Just do something that is only for you, it will fill you up and refresh you. You will feel like a new woman after you are done. . Added Bonus: Encourages your child to be independent.
8. Remember that you have needs too- We have needs, and it is our responsibility to get them met. If you’re feeling frustrated, or unappreciated, instead of walking around feeling angry and misunderstood, figure out a way to get those needs met. Talk about them, ask for support, and be specific. And remember most people can’t read minds so you have to communicate with them to get those needs met. Added Bonus: Teaches your child how to effectively meet their own needs.
9. Give yourself permission- Why do we feel like bad mothers for wanting to do something for ourselves? Every woman who I have ever talked to that wants to express an unhappiness about being a mother feels the need to qualify it by saying “Well, of course I love my child more than anything in the world but…”. Of course you do, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t be unhappy about the way something is going or how you feel. This is how you feel right now, there is nothing wrong with that, you’re a normal mother. Give yourself permission to feel the way you do and do something for yourself to feel better. Even if that means stepping back from your child for a couple of hours. . Added Bonus: Teaches your child to recognize and healthily deal with their emotions.
10. Be a role model- When you ask most parents what they want most for their children they say that they want them to be happy and successful contributing adults. The very best way to ensure that comes true for your child is to be a role model. If you want your child to be confident, get their needs met, be sure of who they are, and happy with their life, just remember that they learn that from you. . Added Bonus: Teaches your child to act with integrity. Being a mother in today’s modern world is tricky business. We are bombarded all day long with messages of what makes a “good mother”. Just forget all that, and be true to you. Being joyful, present, and authentically you is the very best gift you can give to yourself and your child.
About the author: Jen Ottolino is a Personal Coach who works with individuals to eliminate blocks to success. She partners with people to actively attract the life they know they deserve, but haven’t quite managed to achieve. You can visit her website at http://coachjen.com and discover articles, tips, and strategies designed to enhance your life purpose. She also publishes the bite sized weekly newsletter Little gems to subscribe send an email littlegems@coachjen.com?subject=subscribe.
A few years ago, after the birth of our second child, my husband and I were trying to decide whether or not it would be possible for me to stay home. At first we thought that since we were just about breaking even, there was no way we could ever make it happen. But when we decided to actually put pen to paper and calculate our bottom line with and without my salary, we were quite surprised. What we found was that it was actually costing us to have both of us working. While that may not be the case for everyone, you may find that the second salary brings in much, much less than you think it does. According to Jan MacGregor, a financial consultant and former analyst, “There are people out there who are expecting to be able to meet their bills better (after they re-enter the work force) and never realize they are either working for a loss or for something like $4,000 a year (after expenses).” That may seem hard to believe, but if you consider the many “hidden” expenses of a two-income household it is often the case. There are, of course, the obvious expenses such as child care and commuting costs. Some of the hidden expenses are the money spent on lunches, more take-out and convenience food for dinner, dry cleaning bills professional clothing. There can be higher medical costs due to increased exposure to illnesses for children who are in daycare. Many families hire a housekeeper or gardener to keep up on the household work that they don’t have the time to do. A significant factor is your taxable income. A second salary can push your taxable income into a higher tax bracket. While the tax issue in and of itself does not eat up the entire second salary, when you add in all the other expenses of a two income family, you might find that it’s not worth it to have both parents working. Here is a link to MacGregor’s cost of living chart that uses a second salary of $40,000 as an example: Cost Of Living Chart If you are considering having one parent stay at home, the best thing to do is to actually calculate your income and expenses, taking into consideration the difference in taxation. You may find that you can in fact afford to stay home with your kids. Sharon Davis is the owner of 2Work-At-Home.Com and the Editor of the site's monthly ezine, America's Home. In her spare time she reminisces about what it was like to have spare time. To subscribe to her free ezine, Click Here 
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